One has to read carefully the words or listen careful to those spoken if one seeks to understand the true meaning of what another says or writes. To understand the person you have to think about how the eye sees. As I was told once the eye when looking at a picture acts much like a TV screen which, zigs and zags across and down the screen and presto the picture appears. One cannot see it as it happens because of the speed. A similar feat is accomplished by the eye when viewing an object it zips around the objects outline then returns to fill in the body. Amazing! Often we read the words one writes and we may agree or disagree with them at the time, or have no opinion one way or the other. But later after the mind as whirled and twirled those thoughts around another understanding may occur. At least I hope it does. because that it when you get the true meaning of what another has said.
Some often use words that have a different meaning to you than they do to the person writing or speaking. These are used sometimes to make you think about what a person is saying, to draw you into their arena. But sometimes to disguise what they really think and let you believe that they agree with you when they don't or vice-verse.